This is a picture of my sisters and me. This will probably be the last gathering of us for a long time. It was taken back in 2001 at my wedding shower. Since then couple of us don’t talk to each other at all. It’s unfortunate that we are not together again as sibling of four. This picture brings a lot of happy memories to me, I see that we were happy and enjoying each other company as well with friends. By looking at this picture there was a lot of sisterly love between us during this gathering. My sister's were in my wedding so that was nice to see us together and sharing the memories of my wedding with them. We all were getting along great. We talked about our familes how the kids are growing up so fast, and wishing mom and dad were here to see them become adults.
I would think any outsider that saw this picture would think that we are very happy family. But deep inside their were some friction between us. Like I said we were civil to one another to make my day a happy wedding shower event.
There is an age difference between us, my older sister is 62, and after her I have sister that is 58 and then my twin sister and I we are 55 years young, felt sorry for my father having four girls in a three bedroom and one bathroom but we seem to manage. I’m very close to my older sister Juliette, the one that is giving me a kiss on my cheek. Our kids are about the same age so we had a lot in common. My brother-in-law always told me I was his favorite sister-in-law. They live down in Southern California and its been 5 years since I seen them. Hope to see them soon.
During family gatherings I was the one to bring the family together. We had so much fun together during the holidays, picnics, and just having fun with each other. We had a family night out meaning my sisters and their husband and kids to have pizza at our favorite place. This pizza place we started taking our kids too was when they were babies. So, this was a meeting place of fun and laughs and memories.
Since then it's been very difficult not having the sisters' back together. We don't even get together for any family function's except for my twin and I we live together. My older sister calls me on the holidays and we catch up on things about our kids. We are hoping one day that we can get together and be a wholesome family once again. I pray everynight that one day it will happen but their would be a lot of compremising between us. I do believe my mother and father would not approve of wants going on between us sisters.

Francesca,
ReplyDeleteI love your essay. Mine is a little similar as it's a family gathering. I agree that it looks like you are all very happy and enjoying one another. I also hope for a happy reunion for you sisters. Every family has their problems but it's very difficult to get over some of them.
You could write a little bit more about what they conflict is and maybe how you could resolve it or help resolve it. If it's that important to you try to compromise.
Easier said than done. I don't compromise very well but life is too short and you may regret it for the rest of your life.
Good luck, hon:-)
Hello Francesca,
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I would like to say, thank you for sharing your very personal and private story. It can be difficult to share such intimate details especially when it involve family conflicts. I enjoyed reading your essay because it kept my attention throughout the whole reading.
Family conflicts and issues can be among the hardest to overcome and resolve. There are some relationships that are better off kept at a distance. I have such relationship with my mother. I hope that this is not the case with your sisters. I wish you the best in resolving and repairing your relationships.
Mandy Ericson
Francesca,
ReplyDeleteThis is a very personal story, i appreciate you sharing with me and the others about your family. Your essay grabbed my attenion and I'm sure others would agree as well. I'm just confused on what this has exactly done to you/? maybe you could talk bout what your palnning to do or wish to do. Its good except you need info on yourself and what this means for you